Episode 14: How to Keep Perfectionism From Ruining Your Creativity

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In this episode Gia and Karen address the issue of perfectionism and how it can destroy our creativity. They’ll share some personal experiences and cover these topics:

  • Nature is filled with chaotic creativity that is perfect in its own way
  • Our feeling that we are not enough causes to identify with what appears to be perfect externally
  • Marketing and advertising exploit our fears of not being enough in order to sell to us
  • Waking up consciously helps us see through the illusion of perfection
  • The ego longs to be perfect because it hasn’t met the Soul yet
  • Tips for coping with perfectionism:
    • Start before you are ready
    • Don’t overthink projects
    • Set short-term deadlines
    • Be done when you are done – don’t keep rehashing a project
    • Set a clear intention for each project at the beginning

Check out Episode 8: Tapping Into Your Creativity

Read Gia’s interview with Andrew Bush: In the eyes of a gypsy

We love you!!! Let us know how you are coping with your own perfectionism–leave a comment or go to iTunes here and leave a review for us! See you next week!

Gia and Karen

xoxo

Episode 12: How Do I Get Control Over This Thing Called Life?

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Today Gia and Karen talk about control: why we want it, why we don’t have it, and how to live in a world we can’t control. They’ll share their own stories of learning how to let go of controlling behaviors and see the “big picture”: we can’t control the external events of life but we can control our perspective on life. The conversation includes these thoughts:

  • How our society fosters the illusion of having control over life
  • Why goal-setting may not be the best practice
  • How to maximize creativity by letting go of control (and have a lot more fun in life!)
  • Beware of the ego’s tendency to attach to future outcomes
  • What “surrender” really means
  • How resistance causes problems
  • Why you should avoid drama
  • What gets misinterpreted about the Law of Attraction
  • Using disappointment to foster growth
  • Becoming a tool and vessel for the Divine

Links for this episode:

Gia’s meditation video: Allow Change, Let Go of Control

Karen’s blogs: Why We Fear Change and How We Can Transcend the Fear of Change

Leave comments for us and share how you cope when things feel out of control. We are sending you all our love and support for your unique journey!!

See you next week – and remember, It’s Just Life!

Gia and Karen

xoxo

 

Episode 11: Handling Your Inner Critic: Please Stop Shouting At Me!

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Today Gia and Karen talk about the challenge of dealing with the inner critic – that voice inside our heads that constantly reminds us of our failures and fears. They share some recent experiences when the critic took over and offer their insights and suggestions for handling that annoying inner voice. The conversation will include:

  • What is the inner critic and when does it tend to speak up
  • Confidence can be an antidote for the inner critic
  • The inner critic is always self-focused; try focusing on the audience instead
  • How the inner critic can block the flow of creativity and love
  • Remember that the inner critic is part of me and has a valid message for me
  • Tips for handling the inner critic:
    • Listen instead of trying to silence it
    • Offer love, awareness and compassion to that part of the self that is fearful of making a mistake
    • Let the inner critic make you stronger and tougher for handling criticism from others
    • Do your Shadow work to heal old wounds
    • Write a letter of gratitude to your inner critic for what it has taught you
    • Don’t take it personally
    • Remember that it takes practice
    • Don’t attach to the outcome of your own projects

Links for this episode:

Gia’s Buzzfeed video (she’s Emily in the video): https://youtu.be/EOkhrwv19PE 

Karen’s article: How to Recognize Your Own Shadow

Thanks for joining us! We love you and support you on your journey. Send us your own stories – how have you managed YOUR inner critic? And be sure to leave reviews for this podcast on iTunes if you enjoy listening (that will really help us out!)

See you next week!

Gia and Karen

xoxo

Episode 10: How to Make Failure Your Best Teacher

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Today Gia and Karen get real and vulnerable with a discussion about failure. You’ll hear about an article that inspired this conversation called “What To Do When No One Shows Up To Your Reading” by Matthew Norman (see the link below.) This episode includes:

  • the entrepreneurial mindset about failure
  • how spiritual entrepreneurs may see failure differently
  • our personal story of “epic failure”
  • how we recovered from failure
  • how failure teaches us to love ourselves more
  • facing up to our fear of failure

Links in this episode:

Article: “What To Do When No One Shows Up To Your Reading” by Matthew Norman

Karen’s blog: Rising Above Failure

We hope you will love yourself even more the next time you are faced with failure! May it be your best teacher ever. We love you!

Gia and Karen

xxoo

Episode 9: Am I Good Enough? How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

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Today Gia and Karen discuss the universal tendency to compare ourselves to others. There will always be someone who accomplishes more than us, has more wealth, better luck, or less suffering – or it least it seems that way. They share their own struggles with comparisons and how they are still working to overcome that tendency. You’ll hear about:

  • how the ego seeks rewards for accomplishments and clings to expectations (which is a set-up for disappointment)
  • we are each on our own path and get the lessons we need in life
  • other people become mirrors for us, helping us see where we need to love ourselves more
  • we need to appreciate what this life offers us instead of wishing for something different
  • the Galaxy view helps us see the perfection in everything
  • the keys to overcoming the pain of comparison are love and trust: love yourself more and trust that Universe is giving you exactly what you need

Links for this show:

Gia’s song: In Another Life

Gia’s website: DivinelyGia.com

Karen’s website: KarenWyattMD.com

Thanks for coming along for the ride! We love you!!

Gia and Karen

xxoo

Episode 8: Tapping Into Your Creativity: “Don’t Be Afraid to Suck”

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Today Gia and Karen talk about the fickleness and frustration of the creative process and share their own stories of awakening the muse within. You’ll learn how Gia manages creativity as a songwriter and how Karen finally found her voice as an author. The conversation includes:

  • how the creative impulse can feel uncomfortable at times
  • that creativity shows up best when we are relaxed
  • what happens when the mind takes over the creative process
  • why some projects are meant to go unfinished
  • the benefits of meditation to get the mind out of the way
  • Tips for enhancing creativity:
    • Spend time in nature
    • Journal
    • Be willing to suck
    • Follow the flow of energy until it is gone
    • Be willing to let go when you are done
    • Take a weekly “Artist’s Date” (per Julia Cameron)

Links for this episode:

Julia Cameron’s book: “The Artist’s Way” (highly recommended!)

Gia’s video: How to Tap Into Your Intuition

Karen’s A.R.T. Handout: Click here to download

We love you!! Don’t forget to share this podcast with others who might find it helpful and leave reviews for us on iTunes!!

Gia and Karen

xxoo

Episode 7: Sometimes Life Breaks You Down So Your Music Can Be Heard

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Today Gia begins the show by talking about the recent death of a friend and how she was inspired by her grief to review her old journals from 2013 when her grandmother died. She shares the trauma she experienced when she froze while playing a special song at Grammy’s funeral and how she views that situation now. We launch into a discussion about the lessons and grace that can come from our pain and devastation and these topics:

  • The Violin Metaphor and how being hollowed out is necessary for our music to emerge
  • What doctors need to learn about healing when the physical body cannot be cured
  • The pain of grief from the Garden view even when we know that the Soul lives on from the Galaxy view
  • How after-death connections are not the same as the physical connection was in life
  • The ongoing pain from the gaps left behind when loved ones die
  • The role social media can play in grief by allowing us to share our pain with others
  • How our suffering can help transform us into who we are meant to be

While our show is focused on LIFE, we acknowledge that DEATH is an integral part of life and therefore we must discuss these events that have occurred on our journeys. We hope that sharing these stories will help you with your own pain and loss. We are right here with you, living life one day at a time and doing the best we can on this Planet Earth journey. Here are our links for you:

Gia’s video: https://youtu.be/UlK6bnC5it4

Gia’s blogs: http://www.divinelygia.com/blog/category/the-life-of-a-performer

Karen’s website: www.karenwyattmd.com

Know that we love you!!

Gia and Karen

xxoo

PS: Please … go to our iTunes page and leave reviews for this podcast!!! Thank you bunches! Here is the link for you: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/its-just-life!-podcast/id1109552518 

 

Episode 6: Forgiving the Unforgivable: Finding Compassion For Those Who’ve Done Harm

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In this episode Gia and Karen explore the pain experienced by those who unintentionally harm others, through accidents or mistakes. This conversation is an offshoot from last week’s podcast, Episode 5 and you may want to listen to it if you haven’t heard it already. We talk about the challenge of forgiving others who have hurt us and the even greater challenge of forgiving ourselves when we’ve screwed up. This episode covers:

  • How good things can arise from the midst of tragedy
  • The remarkable story of Matthew Shephard, whose parents forgave his murderers and went on to found the Matthew Shephard Foundation for the purpose of erasing hatred
  • Why it’s hard for people to forgive others
  • The “Galaxy View” of tragedy and how it helps us to be more compassionate with ourselves and others
  • How practicing forgiveness helps us but doesn’t let the perpetrator “off the hook”
  • Steps for finding our way to forgiveness and compassion for others

We are sending tons of love to all who have been harmed by others and may struggle with whether or not forgiveness is a good idea. Know that you must find your own path to peace and joy but we’re here to cheer you on as you seek to live with compassion and forgiveness.

Get some great tips from Karen’s blog: How to Make 2016 the Year of Bold Forgiveness

Gia and Karen

xxoo

Episode 3: What the Heck is Abundance and Why Don’t I Have More of It?

 

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Today Gia and Karen talk about how to find abundance on our spiritual journeys while we are also struggling to make a living in the everyday world. They discuss:

  • Trusting the abundance of the Universe, even when you can’t see it
  • How intuition can come to us through our struggles
  • What does success mean on the spiritual path
  • Why we shouldn’t compare ourselves to others
  • Trust is key to the journey – we have to let go of our expectations
  • Love your own path and be happy for others who are own their own unique journeys as well
  • We can co-create love, wholeness and abundance for our world as a whole
  • Loss and brokenness can reveal our path and purpose
  • Gratitude is the key to abundance
  • From Sarah Avant Stover: “the 4 G’s” for journaling
    • Gratitude
    • Good
    • Glitches
    • Goals

We are most grateful for YOU our podcast audience! Thanks for sharing the journey with us and remember that we are right there with you in the crazy ups and downs of life!

Links for this episode:

Matt Kahn video

Gia’s website: DivinelyGia.com

Karen’s website: KarenWyattMD.com

We love you! Join us next time and remember to make comments and leave us your reviews!

Episode 2: How to Bounce Back From a Downturn

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Gia and Karen discuss the inevitable downturns of life and how they get through them. They reveal some of their own struggles with disappointment and emotional letdowns and their recognition that these events are a normal and necessary part of life. You will learn:

  • How to prepare for downturns so that you can experience more equanimity
  • What you can learn from times of darkness
  • Why  you need your own “toolkit” to help you raise your energy again after experiencing a downturn
  • Cool tips and tools for getting out of a slump and back to higher consciousness
  • Why life provides us with more questions than answers

Remember, you are not alone if your are currently struggling in a downturn of life–we are right there with you! Check out these resources mentioned in this podcast:

Karen’s book: What Really Matters

Gia’s Meditation Videos:   Two Steps to Hear Your Soul       Eyes Above the Storm

Jessica’s Daily Affirmation Video

Buddha on the Train Video

Click here to get a copy of the Rilke poem we read to you!

We love you! Join us for the next episode!