In this episode Gia begins by sharing Something Positive: a program in an elementary school in Baltimore that teaches children breath work and meditation instead of sending them to detention. They send a misbehaving child to a “Mindful Moment” room for reflection and some calming meditation. This program has yielded very positive results for the school – well done!
Next Gia and Karen talk about how to regain trust after you’ve been betrayed by another person or by life itself. It’s important to learn some recovery skills so that betrayals don’t cause us to spiral down into victimhood or fear. The conversation includes:
betrayal is a normal part of life – everyone is just human, trying to do the best they can
ultimately our trust should be in ourselves and our own Divinity rather than in people or things outside of ourselves
if we truly trust ourselves and our higher power then we don’t need anyone else in our lives to be totally trustworthy
betrayal can cause us to contract in fear and make ourselves small for self-protection if we don’t learn how to cope with it
even if we’ve healed the past we have to be open to betrayal happening again – have equanimity and compassion for others who are just being human
be able to take the Galaxy view and recognize that life has no guarantees and offers us many different opportunities to learn our lessons
betrayal is one of the biggest lessons we each must learn – so accept from the outset that life is going to bring this experience
we can allow others to be who they are when we place our trust within – we don’t require others to be perfect for us
we can become bitter if we expect our God to always prevent “bad” things from happening to us – this is a misunderstanding of what life is all about
Tips for regaining trust:
turn to prayer and meditation when you feel hurt or betrayed
accept your feelings rather than judging them
trace your own life journey and recognize all of the unexpected things that have happened, both surprises and disappointments; look for patterns in the ups and downs and recognize how life is teaching you certain lessons
consider that your current betrayals may be pointing you toward old wounds that still need to be healed
focus on loving yourself even more, especially when you feel fear
know that you have the power to take care of yourself and to make the highest choices for yourself
Remember: It’s Just Life! with all its crazy ups and downs – the more your emotions rise to the surface the faster you are growing and evolving! Be a Spirit Warrior and a Change Pioneer – join our community and help us forge new territory in life!
In this episode Gia and Karen talk about some personal experiences with healing their old wounds by taking a new perspective.
Something Positive is a story from Australia of two Aboriginal men who were dining at a restaurant and overheard two older women at a nearby table making racist comments about Aboriginals. Rather than getting angry the two men sent a pot of tea to the women as a gift with a note stating that it was from them. They responded to hatred with kindness, which is what the world needs right now!
Gia shares a personal story about rising above feeling hurt and abandoned by the behavior of another person. She learned how to love and celebrate who she is instead of taking the experience personally.
The discussion includes these points:
Neuroscience shows that negative memories are stored 10X more strongly than positive memories because the brain is wired to pay attention to potential threats
Neural pathways become stronger each time an old negative emory is revisited or re-enacted
Break the pattern of old negative behaviors by creating a new reality to reset the belief system
Our difficult relationships are gifts that point out our wounds and give us the opportunity to heal them
A powerful healing practice for relationships: write letters to and from the other person (without sending them) to access higher wisdom and create a new perspective
Our wounds are areas that are hidden from our self-love so they need to be exposed to enable us to love ourselves more fully
No one else has the power to make you happy! That is your responsibility. You create all the positive feelings in your life along with all the negative.
Recover from victimhood by recognizing that you are responsible for everything you feel – both positive and negative – and this will attract better partners for you
What you heal in present time is healed through all time so do your healing work now and don’t worry about going back to the past
Sometimes opportunities to heal our hidden wounds come to us through Grace
The stories we have told ourselves over the years are likely not even accurate or true – we cannot know what other people feel or they are thinking
View everything as an opportunity to heal – when other people bring pain they are just pointing our wounds so we can love ourselves more!
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In today’s episode Gia and Karen welcome their first guest, Dr. Larry George, who is Gia’s Dad and Karen’s husband. Dr. George is a family physician who recently retired from practice and is a student of Integral Theory, particularly the work of Ken Wilber. The trio discusses masculine and feminine energies, what happens when they are out of balance, and some ideas for getting into balance. The conversation includes:
The difference between male/female designations and masculine/feminine and why it’s important to understand
How patriarchy began for practical, survival reasons
That testosterone is the driver of primitive male behaviors for procreation and protection (“f*** it or kill it”)
How societal violence leads to fear and more violence
Why there is currently a clash of civilizations on the planet due to the existence of many different levels of socio-cultural evolution at the same time
Tips for helping male consciousness evolve and controlling testosterone-driven behaviors:
Why higher consciousness is needed to help quell violence on the planet
Why compassion and forgiveness are important as we all seek to evolve (rather than blame and judgement)
The importance of finding our own inner balance of masculine and feminine energies
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Join Gia and Karen as they talk about mistakes and the purpose they play in our own lives and on a global scale. They’ll get into a serious discussion about recent tragic events and how to look at them from the Galaxy view. The conversation includes:
Why mistakes are necessary to allow synchronicity to occur
How to have compassion for our own mistakes that arise from being human
Why we should not judge others because as human beings we are all capable of any negative behavior
Some tragedies happen to call forth more love and compassion on the planet
“Things are not getting worse but they are being uncovered” so that we can heal the Shadow
Offering support to one group within our society (like Black Lives Matter) does not mean that we are excluding others from that support
We can all come together in our grief over all lives that have been lost
We are one creation and can accomplish anything if we work together and appreciate diversity
We are at a turning point in humanity where we can choose love or fear as we move into the future. Love will help us transcend while fear will lead to falling apart.
The Universe is neutral and desires to manifest as much diversity as possible – there is no good or bad according to the Universe
Healing and integrating the Shadow as we attempt to grow is the best way to become whole
We must each shine our light on our own Shadow first
Ho’oponopono is a perfect way to transform the energy around a tragedy:
I love you.
Please forgive me.
You can increase the awareness of the whole by being willing to make mistakes
In this episode Gia and Karen explore the pain experienced by those who unintentionally harm others, through accidents or mistakes. This conversation is an offshoot from last week’s podcast, Episode 5 and you may want to listen to it if you haven’t heard it already. We talk about the challenge of forgiving others who have hurt us and the even greater challenge of forgiving ourselves when we’ve screwed up. This episode covers:
How good things can arise from the midst of tragedy
The remarkable story of Matthew Shephard, whose parents forgave his murderers and went on to found the Matthew Shephard Foundation for the purpose of erasing hatred
Why it’s hard for people to forgive others
The “Galaxy View” of tragedy and how it helps us to be more compassionate with ourselves and others
How practicing forgiveness helps us but doesn’t let the perpetrator “off the hook”
Steps for finding our way to forgiveness and compassion for others
We are sending tons of love to all who have been harmed by others and may struggle with whether or not forgiveness is a good idea. Know that you must find your own path to peace and joy but we’re here to cheer you on as you seek to live with compassion and forgiveness.